Healthy Self-Regard
For forty years I mistook being needed for being loved. This is the book I wrote when I finally stopped doing that. For the woman who has been good at being everyone else and is ready to come home to yourself.
Recovery memoirs. Cozy mysteries. Practical guides for the hard chapters. Hard-won wisdom and authentic experience, drawn from over two decades of lived recovery.
For forty years I mistook being needed for being loved. This is the book I wrote when I finally stopped doing that. For the woman who has been good at being everyone else and is ready to come home to yourself.
Twenty-three years sober and I still hadn’t written down what I knew. This is the book I wish someone had handed me at six months. The Christian framing is mine — you can have it or leave it. The wisdom underneath belongs to anyone who needs it.
My head needed somewhere quiet to go while I was holding too much. Sea Ranch — that stretch of Northern California coast where the fog rolls in like an unhurried thought — became where I went. Maya Chen and the Pemberton Opera House came with me.
Someone you love is going to be diagnosed someday. Or you will be. When that day came in my life, I went looking for one book — one — that would tell us what was actually about to happen without scaring us or condescending to us. I could not find it. So I wrote it.
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